The variety of sex toys is surprising. There is a wide variety of sex toys, ranging from purely male or purely female sex toys to toys that can be used by both men and women. There are also sex toys that can be classified as sexual aids or marital aids.
Uses of sex toys
Some sex toys can help men get an erection, stimulate female genitals to become more sensitive, or provide a different sensation than “normal” sex. Other sex toys provide a “setting” for variations of sex, such as so-called orgy sheets. Sometimes they are used to help people who have difficulty with unassisted sex achieve sexual satisfaction. However, most sex toys offer a new way to directly stimulate the male or female genitals for sexual satisfaction.
The use of sex toys can provide a new experience and variation to the sexual experience. It can also provide an element of fantasy to enhance or reinvigorate the relationship.
Often people expect sex toys to stimulate the genitals directly during foreplay and/or intercourse, or to achieve orgasm through the stimulation of sex toys alone.
Types of sex toys
Vibrating sex toys
Probably the best known sex toy is the “vibrator,” which, as the name implies, uses vibrations to stimulate the genitals. They are primarily used to stimulate the clitoris, but can also be used to stimulate any other part of the female or male body.
The simplest are pencil or wand-shaped (though usually thicker than a pencil). They often have an internal battery (or two) that powers a small motor. Sometimes the battery pack and controller are external and connected to the vibrator by a wire. This motor is equipped with a small, out-of-balance, weight attached to a shaft. As this weight rotates, it throws the motor and shaker into a small circular motion, causing the vibration you feel.
With a vibrator that has a controller, as the power increases, the speed of the motor increases, and so does the speed and intensity of the vibration. Both the intensity and speed of the vibrations will affect the level of stimulation you find in a sex toy. The best results may not be the stronger or the faster the better. The optimal settings may change depending on your level of arousal. For the best results, it is worth buying a controlled vibrator.
Different vibrators will have different characteristics, and you may find that you prefer one combination over another, and your preference may even vary depending on which part of your body you are using.
More recently electronic vibrator controllers have emerged that not only statically control power/speed, but also allow you to select patterns of power pulses and surges. These are very effective.
There are other vibrating sex toys such as butterfly stimulators and vibrating penis rings.
Other Electric Sex Toys
There are some sex toys that use other ways to provide mechanical stimulation. These usually rely on a motor that makes the sex toy constantly change its shape, which provides a rotational motion or makes it move back and forth. The back and forth motion is sometimes powered by an air pump rather than a motor. These motions have been used to create, for example, mechanical tongue licking, vibrators that “penetrate” the vagina, and oral simulators that give men “oral sex.
On a larger scale and more expensive, there are “sex machines” that combine penetration and vibrating dildos.
Combination sex toys
So far we’ve covered vibrating, moving and penetrating sex toys. As you might have guessed, these come in a dazzling array of combinations.
A common combination in many “bunny style” vibrators is the use of vibration for clitoral stimulation, movement for vaginal stimulation, and sometimes penetrative movement.
Many sex toys add different textures to their surfaces; dildos or vibrators may have ridges or soft studs or corrugated shapes.
Sensory alteration sex toys
Rather than providing vibrational or moving stimulation, some sex toys alter the sensations of sex.
For example, there are a variety of sleeves that can be placed over the penis to provide different sensations for both partners while having penetrative sex.
There are rings that squeeze the base of the penis and/or tighten the scrotum to help a man get an erection and also change the way he feels. There are penis extenders and thickeners that can give a man’s partner greater sensation during penetration.
There are a variety of lubricants that can dramatically change the sensation of sex.
There are PVC and polyurethane sheets that are waterproof and oil resistant for slippery or messy sex.
Why use sex toys?
A good question to ask is: Why do people use sex toys? Certainly, fingers, tongues, penises, clitorises and vaginas can provide great sexual stimulation and enjoyment.